So many experts, so little expertise

Big events are in the works and being extensively discussed. The Republican Party is trying to decide who their next Presidential candidate will be in their upcoming battle with the Democrats. Everywhere you turn, TV/radio/internet, there are un-involved experts discussing the arguments and decisions that directly involved decision-making experts are discussing. Although brainstorming and open dialogue are important methods of coming to useful solutions, it seems that in reality, the individual sides only want to hear their own ideas and bla-bla-bla their way through any expressed counter-thoughts.
The GOP should be, in a realistic world, working to find a candidate who fit’s the party ideology and has a realistic chance to beat the Democratic candidate. Once upon a time, factions within the political machines would identify a person within to promote to the voting public, and depending on how cohesive or fractured the party was, a certain number of party candidates would emerge and be winnowed down to one. Now-a-days, while some of that still goes on, more and more, individuals decide to build their own party faction for the sole purpose of promoting themselves without waiting to gain sufficient stature or consolidated influence through traditional means. Both have valid arguments for being a useful method, and both also have inherited weaknesses. In the end, you would think that the important goal during primary period would be identify the strongest candidate to beat the opposition. I would think that the competing party “teammates” would view the primary competition as “if I don’t win now, I still want my inter-party opponent to win in November” but they certainly do not campaign in that manner. To my thinking, if I were vying to be a candidate, the primary period should be all positive “look at me and my strengths and ideas” to convince voters that I am better than the others, without weakening and reducing the others who just might get chosen over me (or as my VP running mate, or me as theirs). I still might have to eventually support that other person, so I should not be doing the eventual opposite party real opponent any favors by knocking down whomever I might find myself fighting for. In the end, the Republicans, whether individually they prefer Mitt or Newt, or Paul or Ron or someone else, they ALL want a Republican as the President for the next four years.
So, although I am mostly a Democrat, I listen with interest to all of the Republican infighting and talking heads rhetoric. Having built Mitt Romney’s Belmont home kitchen cabinets many years ago, I have a curiosity regarding how he will fare, and have a vague feeling that he would be at least no worse than many other Presidents if he won. Apparently, ALL candidates are deeply flawed now-a-days and none of them are ever true Presidential material, but in the end, one of them does indeed become President. So, its still all about “electability” and which party candidate can beat the other party candidate. Some Republican talking heads were lamenting over who beats Obama in head-to-head polling. Interestingly, the candidates with weaker showings amongst Republican voters show strongest overall. Doesn’t this indicate that the party should be making every effort to build up those candidates profiles instead of knocking them out of contention, or doesn’t that mean that they should be building up their own chosen frontrunner? Save the negative for the REAL election against the REAL opponent, instead of discrediting your own support group? I believe the real flaw in the thinking is that the Republicans are focused on which Republican they can convince the Republicans to vote for - but mostly, Republican voters are going to vote for the Republican candidate - they don‘t need to be convinced. The best approach might be to try to convince the Independent or even Democratic voters which Republican they could vote for. There are no Independent or Democratic primaries going on, so those voters are following the Republicans too. THEY are the ones who, if they are dis-satisfied with Obama’s policies, might switch - even just temporarily, and vote for the other side. Thankfully, they will never listen to me - an unimportant Democrat with ridiculous ideas. They will instead put forth a candidate that they themselves don’t really like, and then be stunned and bitter when the voters of the country feel the same way and don’t see fit to vote him into office in November.